“I’m having a threesome, but I’m not sure what to do!”

Ah, yes. Threesome dynamics; always interesting, always that little fear that it will turn into a tangle of elbows and knees, with nobody quite sure of what to do.

In a situation where the sexual orientations allow for each of the three people involved to receive attention from the other two, there are a lot of interesting possibilities. Trading off being in the middle works very well; some of the threesomes I’ve been in with two bisexual women tend to revolve around one person paying attention to the other two, with the person in the middle tending to rotate as the evening progresses.

Sensation play is always a sure bet. Find various things to touch, poke, caress, or prod your partners with. A good way to make a game out of that is to blindfold the person in the middle and make him or her guess what you’re using. If you like to add a little flair to the game, you can make up punishment as you see fit for wrong guesses, rewards for right guesses, or both. You can even use that as a cue to switch off; the person in the middle keeps getting poked and prodded, and punished for wrong guesses, until a certain number of right guesses.

Don’t know what to use? Check the kitchen! Whisks, forks, spatulas, ice cubes, butter knives, bamboo skewers, egg whisks, the possibilities are endless.

Another fun thing to do during a threesome is have one person tell the other two people what to do to each other. If your interests lean toward domination or submission, or toward voyeurism, then this is an absolute blast.

And, of course, as I’ve talked about before, blindfolds make EVERYTHING more fun.

Combine this with one person telling the other two what to do and it gets extra hot. Imagine you’ve been told how to touch one of the other participants, and you’re forced to carry out those instructions strictly by touch alone…well, you get the idea, I’m sure.

A friend of mine who I’ve had the distinct pleasure to be involved in group sex with in the past has something of a fetish for being used as sex furniture; she enjoys, for example, crouching down and having another person be draped or bent over her during sex. That actually turned out to be quite a bit hotter than I expected it to be, so if that sounds like something that might interest you, give it a try!

If your particular flavor of kink goes toward spanking, one of the things I’ve found interesting in the past is to make a rule that I tell my partners what to do, and if either one does something incorrectly, both get spanked. From there it’s simply a matter of finding challenges that one or both of my partners is likely eventually to make a mistake on, like for example spanking whoever’s in the middle while the other counts the spanks in powers of two (1, 2, 4, 8, 16, 32, 64, etc), and at the first mistake in counting, they both are disciplined. (What can I say? I’m evil.)

For even more evil fun, there is always contradictory instructions. If you have one person telling the other two what to do, the person calling the shots can forbid one person to have an orgasm, but order the other person to make him or her come…with, naturally, punishment for the person who disobeys.

One of the things I’ve learned recently is a newfound respect for feet. A person I know swears that orgasms are more intense if you are getting a foot massage at the time. I don’t know if that’s true yet–more experimentation is required, I think–but who knows? Give it a try!

Fisting is ALWAYS a good time. I highly recommend it during any group sex encounter. I have one particularly vivid memory of holding one of my lovers down while her other partner fisted her…great fun!