Help! I am married. I am a submissive into BDSM. My husband is not interested. What can I do? That’s a very tricky question. The short answer is you have four options: talk to him to find out why he’s not interested and see if there is some way you can rebuild your relationship with [...]

Ah, the joy of sexual fantasies. Almost all of us have ‘em, but despite that, it can sometimes be hard to admit them to others. Even to our lovers. Sexual fantasies, like masturbation, are often secret refuges; we build walls of privacy around them, that can make them hard to talk about, or even to [...]

(Note: This post is not about how to ask your partner about having a threesome. That’s an entirely different subject, and something I may write about later. This assumes you’ve already talked to your partner, and now the two of you are searching for a third person to have a threesome with.) “My partner and [...]

When I talk to people about relationships and sex, I often hear the issue of porn being raised–usually from folks who feel concerned about a partner’s use of porn. There are a lot of misconceptions about porn, and I think a lot of unnecessary angst and suffering get wrapped up in the idea of porn. [...]

There are plenty of guides online about how to have a safe, healthy, happy, fulfilling sexual relationship. This is not one of those guides. Instead, this post is about ways you can screw up your sexual relationship–the little tricks and techniques that are sure to doom even the most healthy of relationships and send any [...]

Whenever we have sex, my girlfriend doesn’t want me to touch her for a little while afterward, and pushes me away. She says she feels too sensitive. What’s wrong? Seems like an ordinary part of normal human variation to me. Immediately after orgasm, a very large cascade of chemical changes takes place in the brain. [...]

I am a bicurious woman. I have never had sex with another woman but I would like to try. My boyfriend thinks this is a neat idea and we are thinking about finding a bisexual woman for a threesome. So far, we have not had any luck. We have made rules that we are comfortable [...]

so, i’m 24, female, and I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little more than 18 months. The relationship is awesome and we love each other so much. Bu these days i’ve been desiring sex less and less. What do I do? Yep, that sounds about right. When you first start dating someone, you tend [...]

There’s a simple way to deal with that, and it all comes down to one thing: Understand that it’s OK to feel awkward. I am a veteran, seasoned pervert, and so are most of my friends and partners. I have explored all kinds of kinky, wild sex that a lot of folks only read about [...]

I want sex more than my boyfriend does. It’s caused a lot of problems in our relationship. Lately he says he thinks I might be a nymphomaniac. Is it true? No. Almost certainly, what you have here is a simple mismatch in sexual libido. You’re not a nymphomaniac if you want sex more than your [...]