Help! I am married. I am a submissive into BDSM. My husband is not interested. What can I do? That’s a very tricky question. The short answer is you have four options: talk to him to find out why he’s not interested and see if there is some way you can rebuild your relationship with [...]

I have a number of long-distance partners; it’s one of the curses of the Internet. Meeting people online is a double-edged sword…while I have met many folks online who enrich my life and add value to it, the Internet lets us connect with people who may be a long distance away. Fortunately, the Internet also [...]

“My wife and I have a good sex life, but there’s something that I’d like to try with her that we’ve never done. I don’t know how to introduce the idea to her. Help! What’s the right way to talk to her about it?” I usually use the same technique to introduce any lover to [...]

Ah, the joy of sexual fantasies. Almost all of us have ‘em, but despite that, it can sometimes be hard to admit them to others. Even to our lovers. Sexual fantasies, like masturbation, are often secret refuges; we build walls of privacy around them, that can make them hard to talk about, or even to [...]

(Note: This post is not about how to ask your partner about having a threesome. That’s an entirely different subject, and something I may write about later. This assumes you’ve already talked to your partner, and now the two of you are searching for a third person to have a threesome with.) “My partner and [...]

Well, I’m back among the living; I’ve had a nasty cold for the last week that kept me from updating on the regular schedule yesterday. To make up for it, here’s an extra-hot sex tip! One of the best ways that you can spice up your sex life is to share your sexual fantasies with [...]

Fables and fairy tales are filled with examples of the genie who comes out of a bottle to grant someone three wishes, and often the genie in these stories has a very particular habit of creative interpretation of those wishes to trap the luckless and unwary. In many stories involving genies and wishes, a hapless [...]

There are plenty of guides online about how to have a safe, healthy, happy, fulfilling sexual relationship. This is not one of those guides. Instead, this post is about ways you can screw up your sexual relationship–the little tricks and techniques that are sure to doom even the most healthy of relationships and send any [...]

Whenever we have sex, my girlfriend doesn’t want me to touch her for a little while afterward, and pushes me away. She says she feels too sensitive. What’s wrong? Seems like an ordinary part of normal human variation to me. Immediately after orgasm, a very large cascade of chemical changes takes place in the brain. [...]

I am a bicurious woman. I have never had sex with another woman but I would like to try. My boyfriend thinks this is a neat idea and we are thinking about finding a bisexual woman for a threesome. So far, we have not had any luck. We have made rules that we are comfortable [...]